Lessons With A King

Reframing is something we should do. Cognitive reframing is a psychological technique that consists of identifying and then changing the way situations, experiences, events, ideas, and/or emotions are viewed. The purpose of reframing is to help a person experience their actions, the impact of their beliefs, etc. from a different perspective (frame) and potentially be more resourceful or have more choice in how they react. I like to think of the frame in filmmaking where we see what’s inside the frame but we can zoom in or out to less or more as needed. That’s how we should approach events, we can reframe things to have a positive outlook.

PROMPT: What was the last thing you had to reframe? What was the previous frame?

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As I said yesterday, we are emotional beings so we should not be afraid to open up. However, here’s the thing, when we open up we shouldn’t be surprised to have people open up in return. Thing is this, when people express their emotions you should be willing to accept it. If they open up and you don’t accept them, all you are doing is pushing them away. Accept people and validate their emotions.

PROMPT: How comfortable are you with people expressing their emotions around you?

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We are emotional beings. We feel. We feel, deeply. So when you are given the opportunity to share with people, take it and be vulnerable. We want to feel something and we want to form our tribe. This is inside everyone. What you need to do is, stay open, stay honest and speak from the heart. When you do these, you evoke emotions, you make us feel something special.

PROMPT: How emotional are you?

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We are all here to take care of each other. This is something I learned from my grandmom and something I believe, strongly. It can be difficult to do this when things are… well, the way they are now. One thing that helps is to treat everyone you meet as if today were their last day on earth. If you knew your friend was dying today, wouldn’t you do all you can to make sure they are happy?

PROMPT: If you knew today was the last day on earth for that person, how would you treat them? Why?

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A system is a set of things working together as parts of a mechanism or an interconnecting network; a set of principles or procedures according to which something is done; an organized framework or method. Having a system makes life a lot better. When you find you are doing things over and over, it is a good indication that you might need a system for it. One more thing, you should be willing to adapt your system as is needed.

PROMPT: Do you have any systems? If yes, share one? How did you develop it and why?

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