Author: Israel Ekanem

Rather than complain when you are in a shitty situation, ask yourself this simple question: Am I a victim or a volunteer? Because we are one or the other in every situation. We either willingly put ourselves in that situation or we were forced into it. Though more often than not, we did put ourselves in that situation, and if you volunteered to be there, well, if you can’t take it anymore, you can pull out. I know it isn’t always easy but once we agree we are volunteering to remain in that situation, it will make it easier to leave and if we are a victim in the situation, we should reach out for help.

PROMPT: Are you a volunteer or a victim?

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We should always promote psychological safety whenever we are able. Psychological safety is about removing fear from human interaction and replacing it with respect and permission. From Wikipedia: Timothy R. Clark has contributed to the concept of psychological safety with the 4 Stages of Psychological Safety framework. He defines psychological safety as “a condition in which human beings feel (1) included, (2) safe to learn, (3) safe to contribute, and (4) safe to challenge the status quo – all without fear of being embarrassed, marginalized, or punished in some way.”  These are essential in every relationship. If you don’t have that maybe you need to pull the plug.

Prompt: Are you afraid to express yourself in your relationship? Why? #LessonsWithAKing

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Do not allow anybody to make you feel less than because as you are, right at this moment, you are enough.

Prompt: What makes you enough? #LessonsWithAKing

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In everything we do, no matter how much success we have, we should always step into the fray with an air of humility. Also, modesty and humility are two very different things, never forget that. Stay humble and always ready to learn.

Prompt: How do you embrace humility? #LessonsWithAKing

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In life, we will mess up. So when that happens, we shouldn’t beat ourselves up. What we need to do is make sure we use that opportunity to learn and then fix our mistakes. As long as we are alive and well, we have a chance to make things better.

Prompt: What was the last thing you messed up but fixed/made better? #LessonsWithAKing

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